'She started piling on more work on me... I was happy to comply': Passive-aggressive manager tries to get her employee to quit, instead the company pays their worker more

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Nov 8, 2023 3:00 PM EST

This person's friend approached them with an interesting job offer, and they agreed to take the gig. But for some reason, their friend now feels entitled to holding this "favor" over their head for the foreseeable future. What kind of friend does that? 

Not every person who claims to be your friend actually is. They might think they're being nice, but if they're talking about you behind your back or they're secretly contemptuous of you, word will eventually spread back to you. This person had a social media friend who thought she got them a job. But actually, the OP of the story, u/ProfileElectronic, hadn't taken the friend's job offer, and instead worked with the company's HR to arrange some better pay for themselves. A real friend would've been thrilled for them, but this woman just wanted her friend to thank her over and over forever. She just couldn't get over the fact that her friend was successful…at least the OP realized it and managed to counter her new demands. 

Check out the entire story below. Then, check out these people who had bosses that were a lot like Michael Scott from "The Office"— and they really kept their offices in stitches with all their crazy antics. 

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  • 01
    Manager tries to make life difficult for me, doesn't know as per my contract it benefits me. M OC This happened a couple of years ago. I was working on a part time basis in a small firm owned by friends. Pay was not very good, but the atmosphere was and I was allowed to set my own timings. So life was good overall.
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  • 02
    Then a friend whom I knew only through social media approached me for a job in her company. Even though they were offering good money I turned down the offer as I knew I could not get the benefits I was getting in my current job. Plus the commute to the new office was very long. I would have to travel 2 hrs one way and change 3 trains just to reach office. A month later the HR of the new firm approached me again. They offered me almost four times the money I was making and I could set my own wor
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  • 03
    My friend did not know the terms of the new agreement I had with HR. She used to act like I owed her big time for the opportunity I got. So one day I corrected her. I told her that I had turned down the offer she had been part of and one month later I had had my own negotiations and I got much more favorable terms. So I was here because her company really needed me and not because of her. I didn't share the details of my agreement with her, but we both realized that she was making significantly
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    There are a lot of stories I have about how she tried every trick in the book to make me quit. I'm sharing some of them here. She was my manager and was in charge of allocating work. Malicious Compliance - 1 She started piling on more work on me than any other member of the team. I was happy to comply - she did not know that as part of my contract I would be paid 1.5 times the hourly rate for every hour I worked OT and 2 times the hourly rate if any work was allocated to me over weekends or holi
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  • 05
    Malicious Compliance - 2 After the long commute to work, I used to be hungry so I developed the habit of stopping at the food court to pick up a glass of fresh fruit juice and carry it with me to work. My manager thought that this way she could harass me without actually seeming to do so. So she sent a notice that bringing liquids to office was a hazard. Ironically she used to have coffee delivered to get desk 3 times a day. Well, I pointed out that the rule applied to her as well and if I could
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    Edit -1 Whoa!! This blew up and how. I didn't expect that this post would receive so much response. These two were the least of the incidents of my work life with this woman. There are a lot of comments and messages about this post and while I would love to answer all of them individually, since they more or less relate to the same subject I'll add the clarifications here below. 1. A common question people have posted is why my manager did not know my pay structure. I work in India and here sala
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  • 07
    common for two people working on same level to have vastly different pay structures. 2. Overtime: Usually people in Management level do not get overtime. I had a 7 year gap in my career and when I started working again I chose to work in a different field, so even though I was drawing a high salary I didn't belong to the Management level. My manager was not aware of it. When she assigned e work she assumed I would be working without pay. 3. I owed her. NO. No organization hires anyone on the bas
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  • 08
    company. This goes out to all. If someone tells you that they did you a favor by recommending you - don't feel overly obligated. Yes they did you a good turn. But you got the job on your own merit. Be professional at work and do not go out of your way to return perceived favors. 4. Was she a "friend" - No, not towards the end. Initially I knew her only through social media. As we worked together I developed a friendly working relationship with her. When she began harassing me, the dynamics chang
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    5. Negotiations - How was I able to get such a beneficial pay structure? I was working part time before. The first offer I had was double my salary - but it actually worked out to the same salary structure since I would have to work full time. I took a calculator to my meeting with the HR and showed them how with my increased travel cost and time spent on commute I would be more out of pocket taking their job. This is how I was offered OT, flexible timings and a high base salary.
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    Hammer Of TheHeretics. Your friend does not seem very friendly. 5.4k Reply Share Profile Electronic OP. She was friendly so long as she thought she was doing me a favor. When she realized, she didn't and I didn't "owe" her, her attitude changed.
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    jnelsoninjax Got to love it when the manager's petty bulls ends up helping you at the end, and no mater how much they harass you, you just grin at her and say "Thanks!" That them off always pi even more! Kil them with kindness!
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    gonzojeff What was her reaction when you told her about all that extra money she had helped you earn with all the overtime, weekends, and holidays? 632 Reply Share Profile Electronic OP. She had to smile and wish me well, but if you have ever seen the smile of rigor mortis - you would know what her face looked like.
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    checkmeonmyspace I don't get why friends can't be happy for friends. It sounds like she's very unhappy about everything and that makes me very satisfied
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  • 14
    Bonzai_Tree Pretty sad she took it out on you when you were making more instead of looking to the company or at herself. Obviously either she was being undervalued by her current company OR she just plainly wasn't as valuable. You getting more money was not you wronging her in any way. Petty st, my dude. Glad you turned it into a positive not a negative.
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